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MAIN CHICK
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Main Chick - You are his wife; or a house wife, and your only job is to go to the store. You may be a longtime girlfriend/partner, or even live together, and still; your only job is to go to the store.
Main Chick…You are satisfied with the things your beautiful man/husband/partner does for you. He works more than necessary, keeps you financially stress free, takes care of your basic hair and nail salon needs, and even knows your dress and shoe size. He is on point when it comes to your sensitivity and sexual needs…In your eyes, he’s absolutely perfect.
Main Chick…86% of you has children with this man; he also participates in after school programs, and he is in the stands at the kids after school games (Thus not his only game.) You also have an excellent relationship with his family, and even get together with his friends and their Main Chicks for dinner parties.
Main Chick…Your feminine curiosity leads you to start wondering why he is so perfect. You just know he’s hiding something. What a Main Chick needs to understand is that if you actually have all, or most of the above qualities in a man, why the fuck are you going to start questioning his intentions and look for negative bullshit? Before you start to snoop through his wallet, crack his cell lock code or figure out passwords to his voicemail, email address, and Facebook account; ask yourself these three questions:
1. Am I going to leave/divorce him if I find out he’s cheating?
(You say you will…but you won’t)
2. Will I ever trust him again if he’s cheating on me?
(You will try…but you won’t)
3. Will I ever forgive him if he is cheating on me?
(You say you will...but you will constantly remind him of his faults)
Refer to my archived blog post: http://forgivenessistwisted.blogspot.com/2009_11_01_archive.html
Main Chick… If you’re not going to leave him, divorce him, forgive him, or trust him again…Then why start looking for shit when you know you are going to find shit?
Main Chick… Haven’t you heard the stereotype: “All men are dogs, and all men cheat”? What makes you think your man doesn’t fit the stereotypical criteria? Don’t blame him for ruining your relationship. You ruined that shit by being fucking nosy. It was YOUR search for the Side Chick that officially made your relationship miserable. You thought you could uphold your feelings, suck it up, “be strong” and simply ignored asking yourself the above questions 1 through 3. All because you, “Just wanted the truth”, right? Based on your eager search to crack the code and find out about his “SIDE CHICK”, you’ve now allowed for your grown woman feelings to get hurt.
Main Chick… He tried to hide the Side Chick from you for a reason. He didn’t want to hurt you or piss you off. C’mon… he deserves some fun since he upholds his part of the home, if not all of it (especially if your ass don’t have a job and grocery shops all day). Besides, if he wanted you to know about the Side Chick, don’t you think he would have at least mentioned her, or introduced you to her?
Main Chick… If you would have minded your business, you wouldn’t have found shit, and nothing in the relationship would have changed. So now your life goes from “la-dee-dah- daaaahhh”, to a constant questioning, arguing, and crying over a woman you don’t even know. Since the “Side Chick is out of the bag”; expect him to spend more time away from you because the Side Chick is no longer as secret.
Main Chick… Quit being a damn microscope if you are not going to leave him or divorce him. All the bullshit arguing, accusing, and now a relationship fucked out of trust; would have been avoided if you had simply kept your place, not snooped through his shit, and minded your business. You have to advance yourself by learning self control. Ignore that shit and let it go because this is the only way you can make him “perfect in your eyes”. You have to become ignorant to his flaws. Soon you will become mute to most of them. By doing this; he will leave eventually the Side Chick alone.
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SIDE CHICK
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Side Chick…When he is going through a rough time at home, he comes to you to clear his mind, vent, nut, and go back home to his Main Chick. You have no children together, and therefore he is not obligated to you. If you know any of his friends, it’s a selected one or two, and that’s only because they have Side Chicks that you can relate to.
Side Chick…You are only special because you put him up on a pedestal and know a few more freaky tricks than his Main Chick. He is only cheating with you because you are doing shit he would never disrespect and ask his Main Chick to do at home.
Side Chick… YES… He knows your dress and shoe size, (He has to buy you something to keep you on the sideline right?), don’t take it to heart because the Main Chick has his heart; all you have is a piece of his dick.
Side Chick… Don’t get your heart caught up and fall in love with a man who has a “Main Chick” with all the necessities at home. Your place is to be a freak, and his hoe…that’s it.
Side Chick… He will not leave his Main Chick for you; and if he claims he will, remember these words “If he cheats with you, he will cheat on you.” Then the tables would turn you into a Main Chick, but you will be a stressed out Main Chick who is up on game, and it won’t work. You will have a constant thought of him finding a woman to replace your spot as his former Side Chick…and he will.
Side Chick… Don’t turn into a Stupid Bitch and start questioning him on what he’s doing when he is away from you. That is not your place! Don’t start snooping through his wallet, writing down his cell phone contacts, forwarding his text messages to your phone, or stealing mail and shit out of his glove box. Don’t try to crack his voice mail code, online passwords, or secretly following him on Twitter. You have no business going through his personal shit dummy…He’s not YOUR man! Remember he has a Main Chick who does that shit at home! He uses you to get away from that bullshit, that’s why you are the Side Chick!!!
Side Chick… Don’t develop a jealous nerve and turn into a Messy Bitch by making a phone call to the Main Chick to tell her what you are doing with her man.
Basic Side Chick 101: You envious hoe! You are not supposed to have contact with the Main Chick! She is not going to leave him, and calling her will get you instantly replaced.
Side Chick… If you don’t have this shit down, you are a Basic Bitch. And that’s a whole other blog. Remember…There are several Side Chicks out there who know their place. These Side Chicks are advanced hoes patiently waiting on the sideline for your dumb ass to fuck up and be traded out.
Main Chicks, Side Chicks…You only have 3 choices, so stop bitching and pick one:
1. Learn your place
2. Accept his flaws and shut the fuck up
3. Leave him, or divorce him and get paid (This is what the Smart Bitch would do)
Now if you've been through it, are still with him, and now he is "perfect"...Believe me, he ain't flawless...If he is, you have officially stepped up to “Advanced Main Chick”. I applaud you for learning self control, ignoring that shit, letting it go, and accepting your man’s diamond like flaws.
NOTE:
Main Chick/Side Chick PAY ATTENTION: Even the most precious diamond can have flaws, BUT you have to look through a microscope to see them.
“Even Diamonds Have Flaws”
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MAIN CHICK
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Main Chick - You are his wife; or a house wife, and your only job is to go to the store. You may be a longtime girlfriend/partner, or even live together, and still; your only job is to go to the store.
Main Chick…You are satisfied with the things your beautiful man/husband/partner does for you. He works more than necessary, keeps you financially stress free, takes care of your basic hair and nail salon needs, and even knows your dress and shoe size. He is on point when it comes to your sensitivity and sexual needs…In your eyes, he’s absolutely perfect.
Main Chick…86% of you has children with this man; he also participates in after school programs, and he is in the stands at the kids after school games (Thus not his only game.) You also have an excellent relationship with his family, and even get together with his friends and their Main Chicks for dinner parties.
Main Chick…Your feminine curiosity leads you to start wondering why he is so perfect. You just know he’s hiding something. What a Main Chick needs to understand is that if you actually have all, or most of the above qualities in a man, why the fuck are you going to start questioning his intentions and look for negative bullshit? Before you start to snoop through his wallet, crack his cell lock code or figure out passwords to his voicemail, email address, and Facebook account; ask yourself these three questions:
1. Am I going to leave/divorce him if I find out he’s cheating?
(You say you will…but you won’t)
2. Will I ever trust him again if he’s cheating on me?
(You will try…but you won’t)
3. Will I ever forgive him if he is cheating on me?
(You say you will...but you will constantly remind him of his faults)
Refer to my archived blog post: http://forgivenessistwisted.blogspot.com/2009_11_01_archive.html
Main Chick… If you’re not going to leave him, divorce him, forgive him, or trust him again…Then why start looking for shit when you know you are going to find shit?
Main Chick… Haven’t you heard the stereotype: “All men are dogs, and all men cheat”? What makes you think your man doesn’t fit the stereotypical criteria? Don’t blame him for ruining your relationship. You ruined that shit by being fucking nosy. It was YOUR search for the Side Chick that officially made your relationship miserable. You thought you could uphold your feelings, suck it up, “be strong” and simply ignored asking yourself the above questions 1 through 3. All because you, “Just wanted the truth”, right? Based on your eager search to crack the code and find out about his “SIDE CHICK”, you’ve now allowed for your grown woman feelings to get hurt.
Main Chick… He tried to hide the Side Chick from you for a reason. He didn’t want to hurt you or piss you off. C’mon… he deserves some fun since he upholds his part of the home, if not all of it (especially if your ass don’t have a job and grocery shops all day). Besides, if he wanted you to know about the Side Chick, don’t you think he would have at least mentioned her, or introduced you to her?
Main Chick… If you would have minded your business, you wouldn’t have found shit, and nothing in the relationship would have changed. So now your life goes from “la-dee-dah- daaaahhh”, to a constant questioning, arguing, and crying over a woman you don’t even know. Since the “Side Chick is out of the bag”; expect him to spend more time away from you because the Side Chick is no longer as secret.
MAIN CHICK... LEARN YOUR PLACE AND KEEP IT
Main Chick… Quit being a damn microscope if you are not going to leave him or divorce him. All the bullshit arguing, accusing, and now a relationship fucked out of trust; would have been avoided if you had simply kept your place, not snooped through his shit, and minded your business. You have to advance yourself by learning self control. Ignore that shit and let it go because this is the only way you can make him “perfect in your eyes”. You have to become ignorant to his flaws. Soon you will become mute to most of them. By doing this; he will leave eventually the Side Chick alone.
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SIDE CHICK
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Side Chick…When he is going through a rough time at home, he comes to you to clear his mind, vent, nut, and go back home to his Main Chick. You have no children together, and therefore he is not obligated to you. If you know any of his friends, it’s a selected one or two, and that’s only because they have Side Chicks that you can relate to.
Side Chick…You are only special because you put him up on a pedestal and know a few more freaky tricks than his Main Chick. He is only cheating with you because you are doing shit he would never disrespect and ask his Main Chick to do at home.
Side Chick… YES… He knows your dress and shoe size, (He has to buy you something to keep you on the sideline right?), don’t take it to heart because the Main Chick has his heart; all you have is a piece of his dick.
SIDE CHICK… LEARN YOUR PLACE AND KEEP IT
Side Chick… Don’t get your heart caught up and fall in love with a man who has a “Main Chick” with all the necessities at home. Your place is to be a freak, and his hoe…that’s it.
Side Chick… He will not leave his Main Chick for you; and if he claims he will, remember these words “If he cheats with you, he will cheat on you.” Then the tables would turn you into a Main Chick, but you will be a stressed out Main Chick who is up on game, and it won’t work. You will have a constant thought of him finding a woman to replace your spot as his former Side Chick…and he will.
Side Chick… Don’t turn into a Stupid Bitch and start questioning him on what he’s doing when he is away from you. That is not your place! Don’t start snooping through his wallet, writing down his cell phone contacts, forwarding his text messages to your phone, or stealing mail and shit out of his glove box. Don’t try to crack his voice mail code, online passwords, or secretly following him on Twitter. You have no business going through his personal shit dummy…He’s not YOUR man! Remember he has a Main Chick who does that shit at home! He uses you to get away from that bullshit, that’s why you are the Side Chick!!!
Side Chick… Don’t develop a jealous nerve and turn into a Messy Bitch by making a phone call to the Main Chick to tell her what you are doing with her man.
Basic Side Chick 101: You envious hoe! You are not supposed to have contact with the Main Chick! She is not going to leave him, and calling her will get you instantly replaced.
Side Chick… If you don’t have this shit down, you are a Basic Bitch. And that’s a whole other blog. Remember…There are several Side Chicks out there who know their place. These Side Chicks are advanced hoes patiently waiting on the sideline for your dumb ass to fuck up and be traded out.
Main Chicks, Side Chicks…You only have 3 choices, so stop bitching and pick one:
1. Learn your place
2. Accept his flaws and shut the fuck up
3. Leave him, or divorce him and get paid (This is what the Smart Bitch would do)
Now if you've been through it, are still with him, and now he is "perfect"...Believe me, he ain't flawless...If he is, you have officially stepped up to “Advanced Main Chick”. I applaud you for learning self control, ignoring that shit, letting it go, and accepting your man’s diamond like flaws.
NOTE:
Main Chick/Side Chick PAY ATTENTION: Even the most precious diamond can have flaws, BUT you have to look through a microscope to see them.
“Even Diamonds Have Flaws”
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I most say first off, Monica I commend you for speaking the truth and the truth ALWAYS set's you FREE!!!!! I was moved and convicted with this piece you wrote. I related to this story so much.. I know my role as a "MAIN" CHiCK and know my worth. I was embarrassed and ashamed that I snooped, sneaking through his dirty laundry, breaking into safes, calling women, cracking email passwords and writing names down etc....all because I wanted that "proof" and for what. I wasn't leaving. I knew he betrayed me and the minute I did, I already knew I would forgive him. We women get our roles confused in a man's life. As a main chick, you definately have to take the good and the bad and embrace it and be willing to still learn, grow and forgive each other, or leave and move on to someone else that you think can meet your needs better than what you've got now. I don't believe in fairy tales anymore. This is real life and real people are not perfect...man is imperfect and the flesh is very weak. Ladies know your worth and your place and don't let a man dictate your happiness and your self-worth!!! Side chicks are always just that a SIDE chick. You will always be a option until that one that comes along and captures his heart, mind, body and soul! And that is ALWAYS the MAIN chick. Come on ladies as the old saying goes..." you can't make a hoe a housewife", However there are exceptions to every rule...but how often does that happen ladies. Everything we do in life is a choice. We can choose to be a main or a side chick and deal with the consequences of that as a woman and with grace and virtue. I allowed a man to hurt me and cheat on me and what did I do with that information I got mad as hell, yet forgave and never FORGOT...I would've saved myself so much heartache if I wouldn't of opened that book or went through that phone. However I don't regret any decision I've made, it's made me the woman I am today. We shouldn't allow these men to solidify our worth. I"m speaking to you side chick...when you want to be that main chick...Why would you want someone who will always see you as a option and not a priority. Your just there until something better comes along anyway, don't get your feelings miscontrued. You dictate your worth and happiness not a man and to my main chicks, we don't fall in love we surrender to it. So I know it's hard to let go of the bad things that have happened but you have to either let it go or move on. Because your holding onto baggage that is stunting your growth and your ability to love unconditionally and be truly happy with yourself. We have to love ourselves enough before we can expect anyone else to!!! Ladies let's stop trying to change our place and STAY IN OUR LANES!!! or accept your role and be happy with it. Monica said it best "even diamonds have flaws" but it can still SHINE!!!!!! BE BLESSED LADIES!!!!!!!!! Valerie Bias
ReplyDeleteGreat post! Soooooooo Trueeeeeeee
ReplyDeleteMind your business as to your dude fucking around?? Geez, and y'all ignorant bitches wonder why CDC always report black community for over 50% of hiv/aids population!! Lol, been on both sides of the main & side chick fence BUT my nosiness thus far has kept my ass hiv & std free!
ReplyDeleteI agree with you a 100%. Our community is being over taken by pure ignorance...smh
DeleteLMAO...most ignorant shit I have ever read! And I agree with the other poster, so many diseases floating around and I should just not care? Really? I have way too much respect for myself to let someone potentially bring home something that can kill me. Some side chicks are crazy too. Have you never heard of a wife or child being killed due to some crazy chick on the side jealous because she never got what was promised to her. I'm good! And to answer your silly question as to if I would leave him...hell yeah! Geez, the black community is going down so fast. Where in the hell did this type of logic come from and why is it being accepted. Value yourself ladies!
ReplyDeleteI totally agree w/ this ^
ReplyDeletemost woman allow men to use them for sex knowing they have a women that shows lack of respect and self worth their are a lot of good decent men out here thats not into lying cheating playing games and shit...women need to stop being desperate and thristy for dick...they need to get involved in something they enjoy doing have a hobby.& pray to god for a real man.
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Name : Erianna Moric
Why did he marry if he doesn't plan on being faithful. He puts his finance on risks when he has to pay for the child support after the wife finds out and files a divorce. And now men are calling women gold digger? I wonder how much you can write about your wife having a side man.
ReplyDeleteA womans place is to be by his side through hard times and good. Not cheating. You meet him half way, if you catch him up run, realize you dodged a bullet. Have your own money, job, education so he know he can't cheat on you and get away with it. Realize that if he keeps cheating he will not change for you, move on. Know your worth. You are better then getting a bs man who doesn't respect you and don't want you enough to be loyal.
ReplyDeleteI feel sorry 4 wives with cheating men because their husbands will risk everything 4 a good side chick...Shame..
ReplyDeleteWhat is this horrible ratchet mess. Side chick, main chick, there should only be one chick. This is disgusting that you are promoting this behavior.
ReplyDeleteWhat is this horrible ratchet mess. Side chick, main chick, there should only be one chick. This is disgusting that you are promoting this behavior.
ReplyDeleteEveryone makes a valid point however its up to the husband and wife on what they want to do. My husband is having an affair..do i agree with it no way. Come to find out she has my same attitude, she has more issues than i. Their relationship is not going to last. I left my husband because i wanted change for myself. I seen things in me i did not like. He has a hard time dealing with women, and himself. Will i ever divorce im not sure? Will he change? I believe he will. In due time. In the meantime this article is right i need to learn to mind my business...learning about my husbands affair stressed me out,his fault and mine. I know my husband or so i thought...he and i have similar behavior he will always date controlling abused women that he wants to control.He is passive aggressive. Ladies if you take a step back and look at the whole picture you can see the whole picture you will be amazed at what you see. Make your judgement from there. The side piece tryna save my husband im jus sitting back and waiting for her to realize you are playing a fools game how you going to love someone you jus met..i have known this man for years 9 i know his family his history, i pray for him, i genuinely have his best interest at heart.(spite my controlling behavior) But i also must learn to love myself more and so should you. Anytime you think its ok for you to be happy with breaking up a home and encouraging me to divorce my own husband you kidding me right im 30 and she about to be 40 how am i learning what you should have at my age and now want to play petty games?
ReplyDeleteNow you on facebook making stupid posts about how miserable you are with my husband.. no one told you to get involved. Im learning to forgive you though Ladies dealing with a cheating spouse or being a side chick love yourself love your children if you have them. Im talking unconditionally. If you want to save your marriage its possible. Get your man tested mines did, even if we are not sexually involved...i got kids i dont want stds passing on my kids. Love yourself treat others the way you want to be treated.
I've been with my man for 8 years . I would never have even cared about what was on his phone if he hadn't flat out refused to let me use his to call my mama when my time ran out on mine. After he said "No" it caught me off guard. I thought it was a joke at first so I said " I gotta call mama .. Let me see it"He again said no and I could tell that he wasn't playing like I assumed. It immediately made me suspicious. He changes the lock system anytime he thinks I watched him unlock it.I reviewed a testimony on my page about a cyber hacker''hackingloop6@gmail . c o m'' he's also on + 1 712 292-2655,whom i applied for his hacking service,gaining me a remote access to my husband's phone activities blew my imagination..The fact is that he have been cheating even before he proposed,i literally sees him as a perfect gentle man without knowing what was hidden behind his fake affections.
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